Signs it may be time
- A change in behaviour, mood or sleep that has lasted several weeks.
- Worry, sadness or anger that seems larger than the situation.
- Falling behind at school, or a teacher raising the same concern more than once.
- Difficulty making or keeping friends.
- Avoiding school, activities or people they used to enjoy.
- Going back to younger behaviours, such as bedwetting, after a stressful event.
- You feel stuck, and what usually works at home no longer does.
When to seek help urgently
If your child talks about hurting themselves or someone else, or you are worried about their safety, seek help the same day: contact your doctor or the nearest hospital. In India, Tele-MANAS, the government's free mental health helpline, is available on 14416 or 1-800-891-4416.
What happens at the first visit?
The psychologist usually talks with you first about your concerns, your child's development and family life, then spends time with your child, often through play or drawing for younger children. They may suggest questionnaires or tests, and agree with you what happens next. A first visit is about understanding, not labelling.
How to talk to your child about it
- Keep it simple and honest: "This is someone whose job is helping kids with feelings and worries."
- Avoid presenting it as a punishment or as something being wrong with them.
- Let them ask questions, and tell them they can ask the psychologist questions too.
Who should we see?
See psychologist vs psychiatrist vs developmental pediatrician to work out the right first contact.
Common questions
- At what age can a child see a psychologist?
- Children of any age can see a psychologist. Child psychologists adapt how they work, often using play with younger children.
- Do I need a referral to see a child psychologist in India?
- Usually not for a private psychologist, though a pediatrician's referral helps the psychologist understand your concern.
- Will seeing a psychologist go on my child's record?
- Psychological care is confidential. Ask the clinic how they store records and who they share them with; nothing should be shared with a school without your consent.
Not a diagnosis. This guide is general information, not medical advice. If you are worried about your child, talk to your pediatrician. Written by the Mores Health team from the sources below; it has not yet been reviewed by a clinician.